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Denise  Fitzpatrick

Denise Fitzpatrick

Why It’s Not Working

WHY ISN’T IT WORKING?

Trying to change what you’re doing WITHOUT changing your beliefs and attitudes ONLY creates temporary change.​

You’ve been caught in a painful cycle of arguments. ​ ​

YOUR TRIGGERS ARE RUNNING THE SHOW. ​ ​

And without fail your weekend was ruined by another big blow out? ​

All over something STUPID. ​ ​
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Like most arguments, you don’t even remember what you were fighting about.​

Quiet tension and cold distance continues long after the fight until one of you breaks the silence. ​ ​

YOU PROMISE TO TRY HARDER.​

You make agreements with yourself, with your partner, you’re gonna do it different. ​ ​

You’re not going to react like this. ​ ​
You’re going to stay calm and talk things through.​

The next time comes. ​

And the minute you get triggered you go right back into the SAME OLD WAYS, the same old reactive response. ​

Defensive, blaming, judging and criticizing. ​ ​

This PAINFUL CYCLE is impacting everything in your life, even if you don’t realize it. ​ ​

I didn’t realize it either until I FREED MYSELF FROM LIVING IN EMOTIONAL REACTIVITY to things I couldn’t control. ​ ​

It was affecting my mental and emotional well being, the well being of my family. ​

My kids were so aware of what was going on even though I liked to think they didn’t. ​

So why wasn’t it working? ​ Why couldn’t we change?​

YOU CAN’T CHANGE THE PATTERNS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT CHANGING YOUR THOUGHT, BELIEFS AND ATTITUDES. ​💯
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What are your current thoughts and beliefs about your partner, your marriage?​

DO YOU BELIEVE ​
You partner is wrong?​
He always does X.​
This will never change.​
What’s wrong with him.​
If he would only…… I wouldn’t have to feel this way ​

The narrative has to change if you want to create lasting change in your marriage. ​ ​


Changing the narrative, the negative thoughts & beliefs is what CHANGED MY MARRIAGE FOR GOOD.​


What gave me the internal peace I’d been desperate for (my whole life).​

What led to better relationships with my boys.​

What helped me to stop personalizing other people’s behavior.​

What helped me stop being a victim to my circumstance?​

WHEN YOU CHANGE YOUR THINKING, BEHAVIOR CHANGES CAN HAPPEN QUICKLY​

Most of us have been repeating the SAME THOUGHTS OVER AND OVER for years and don’t realize how they contribute to creating our current reality. ​ ​

That’s where a coach can help you. ​ ​

As a marriage & relationship coach I help you see the things you can’t see so you can make the changes you haven’t been able to make on your own. ​ ​

I can help you solve these problems for good so you can stop just surviving in your marriage and start thriving. ​ ​ ​

In my 1:1 private coaching I’ll help you​…

✔︎Identify and understand the patterns of communication that keep you looping in the same arguments.​
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✔︎Identify and change the thoughts and beliefs that are contributing to keeping you stuck. ​

✔︎So you can learn to manage your triggers and respond instead of react. ​ ​


You can create an entirely different narrative about your marriage and your partner and have a relationship that’s even better than you dreamed. ​


If you’re ready to improve communication so you can stop having the same fight over and over and enjoy being married again then send me a private message.

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