WHY ISN’T IT WORKING?
Trying to change what you’re doing WITHOUT changing your beliefs and attitudes ONLY creates temporary change.
You’ve been caught in a painful cycle of arguments.
YOUR TRIGGERS ARE RUNNING THE SHOW.
And without fail your weekend was ruined by another big blow out?
All over something STUPID.
Like most arguments, you don’t even remember what you were fighting about.
Quiet tension and cold distance continues long after the fight until one of you breaks the silence.
YOU PROMISE TO TRY HARDER.
You make agreements with yourself, with your partner, you’re gonna do it different.
You’re not going to react like this.
You’re going to stay calm and talk things through.
The next time comes.
And the minute you get triggered you go right back into the SAME OLD WAYS, the same old reactive response.
Defensive, blaming, judging and criticizing.
This PAINFUL CYCLE is impacting everything in your life, even if you don’t realize it.
I didn’t realize it either until I FREED MYSELF FROM LIVING IN EMOTIONAL REACTIVITY to things I couldn’t control.
It was affecting my mental and emotional well being, the well being of my family.
My kids were so aware of what was going on even though I liked to think they didn’t.
So why wasn’t it working? Why couldn’t we change?
YOU CAN’T CHANGE THE PATTERNS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT CHANGING YOUR THOUGHT, BELIEFS AND ATTITUDES. 💯
What are your current thoughts and beliefs about your partner, your marriage?
DO YOU BELIEVE
You partner is wrong?
He always does X.
This will never change.
What’s wrong with him.
If he would only…… I wouldn’t have to feel this way
The narrative has to change if you want to create lasting change in your marriage.
Changing the narrative, the negative thoughts & beliefs is what CHANGED MY MARRIAGE FOR GOOD.
What gave me the internal peace I’d been desperate for (my whole life).
What led to better relationships with my boys.
What helped me to stop personalizing other people’s behavior.
What helped me stop being a victim to my circumstance?
WHEN YOU CHANGE YOUR THINKING, BEHAVIOR CHANGES CAN HAPPEN QUICKLY
Most of us have been repeating the SAME THOUGHTS OVER AND OVER for years and don’t realize how they contribute to creating our current reality.
That’s where a coach can help you.
As a marriage & relationship coach I help you see the things you can’t see so you can make the changes you haven’t been able to make on your own.
I can help you solve these problems for good so you can stop just surviving in your marriage and start thriving.
In my 1:1 private coaching I’ll help you…
✔︎Identify and understand the patterns of communication that keep you looping in the same arguments.
✔︎Identify and change the thoughts and beliefs that are contributing to keeping you stuck.
✔︎So you can learn to manage your triggers and respond instead of react.
You can create an entirely different narrative about your marriage and your partner and have a relationship that’s even better than you dreamed.
If you’re ready to improve communication so you can stop having the same fight over and over and enjoy being married again then send me a private message.