Do you think to yourself, If my partner would just see things my way (the right way) then you wouldn’t keep having the same stupid arguments?
If I asked you what you were fighting about would you even remember?
Probably not. 
You’re so committed to being right and feeling wronged by your partner that you easily lose sight of the actual issue.
In the end, the biggest loser is your marriage. And you lose out on the love and connection you truly want with your partner.
What’s the solution to ending these patterns for good?
YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP THE NEED TO BE RIGHT
There are always different ways of looking at the same thing.
This does not mean that one way is right and one is wrong. It’s just different. 
It’s entirely possible for you to be in the same situation together yet have a totally different perspective
or remember things in a completely different way.
It’s not that your partner is lying when you have different stories about the same situation.
What if you’re both right? 
If you believed this, how would that change your relationship?
When you can learn to acknowledge your partner’s perspective even when you don’t agree
this can dramatically change your relationship.
You can say something like, “I see what you’re saying”, “why is that important to you?”, “I can understand how you would feel that way”.
➣When you stop fighting to be right you can completely change the way you and your partner talk to each other, which ultimately will change the quality of your marriage.
➣From being filled with tension, stress, resentment, and walking on eggshells to not upset your partner… to feeling at ease, working as a team, understanding and accepting each other with an open mind and heart.
➢Disagreements can be just disagreements without it escalating into a big argument and you can still feel close and loving even when you don’t agree.
When you find yourself caught up in trying to convince your partner or prove to him that your way is the right way, stop!
Remind yourself that your partner is on the same team as you.
Ask yourself, how is it possible that we’re both right?
Learn to accept that you see things differently. Be curious about their thoughts and feelings instead of just pushing your own agenda.
Acknowledge your partner’s point of view without judgment.
And remember, acknowledgement does NOT equal agreement.
When you stop believing there is a right way and a wrong way you won’t feel like you have to fight your partner on everything.
You make space for a difference of opinion.
Yours and theirs. 
Accepting your differences with love and respect is challenging. But it is one of the key ingredients for having a successful, connected marriage.
If the need to be right is ruining your relationship, you’re struggling with the same fights over and over
and want to put an end to this for good, so you can be happy in your marriage again, I can help.
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