Resolve conflict, improve communication, feel connected to your partner again:

Create Your Happily Ever After

If you’re a high-achieving couple in midlife who’s grown apart due to the demands of modern life—raising kids (in a digital age), advancing careers, and daily responsibilities— you might wonder if it’s possible to reclaim the closeness you once shared.

You can do this!

But Right Now………

The emotional ups and downs, the repetitive arguments that go nowhere, and the precious moments wasted in anger have taken their toll. 

You seem to be stuck in ‘conflict spirals’ whenever you attempt to talk about your issues, followed by tension filled periods of silence and avoidance so as not to start another argument.   

You’re tired of feeling like you’re always to blame, of digging up the past, and the idea of spending years in therapy is less than appealing.

And yet despite the frustration, exhaustion, and distance that may have grown between you, you feel a deep desire to bridge that gap—to rediscover the physical and emotional intimacy that you used to feel. 

Yes, you can “revive” a marriage even if it feels impossible right now…

And I know because I’ve been there myself.

I’m Denise Fitzpatrick, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Marriage & Relationship Coach, and I’ve helped hundreds of couples just like you, improve communication, heal old hurts and resentments and turn their marriage around, sometimes from the brink of divorce. 

I’ve also been married 24 years, and happier in my marriage than I’ve ever been.  

But it wasn’t always that way.  

There was a time when rough patches were the norm in our marriage, struggling to stay connected, to have meaningful conversations, daily interactions were reduced to  short, curt exchanges related to the kids. 

I desperately needed something to change.  I couldn’t keep going on like this. 

At the same time, I couldn’t help but think “If we really loved each other, this wouldn’t be happening.”   (btw, this is not true)

I began to notice that my husband and I were stuck in a pattern of interacting and reacting, like a well rehearsed dance.  

Sometimes all it took was a slight tone or the wrong word that would set off a chain reaction of action-trigger-reaction-repeat.  The disconnection cycle. 

Ok, so now what.  How do we stop doing this same old terrible dance? 

After years of feeling angry and frustrated, it finally hit me: What if I changed my reaction to my husband, changed my dance steps? What would happen?

I started to experiment with this and quickly realized……. 

I couldn’t make my husband change his behavior, but changing my own reaction could, in fact, create a positive shift in our marriage. 

Waiting for him to change wasn’t working and just made me feel powerless. So, instead, I focused on how I reacted and interacted with him.

I started by changing small things in my responses to him. For example, instead of getting upset or defensive right away, I’d take a moment to think about why he might be feeling or acting a certain way. 

This new approach was like introducing a new step in our dance, and it slowly began to change the pattern of our interactions.

My aproach is designed to reconnect and rejuvenate your relationship in three months or less—whether you work

Change your approach and the Patterns can change!

This was such good news, as it was clear that by just changing my part in our “dance” our whole dynamic began to shift. It felt freeing to realize that I could make a difference by making small shifts on my own. 

This change made me optimistic about our marriage improving. Even thinking about our relationship in this new way made me feel lighter and more hopeful.

Very quickly, our marriage turned around, and now it’s stronger than ever. 

And that’s exactly why my program is designed to be effective with or without your partner.

And I knew that there were so many other couples out there like us, believing it shouldn’t be this hard or that if you loved each other things would just work out, not realizing that love is just the foundation and that you need some other things too. 

Because the truth is this: 

Marriage is hard, (especially when you stop working on it). Partners don’t automatically know what we need without us having to ask. And seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. 

Marriage takes a lot more than love. It takes communication skills, individual growth, knowing how to handle differences and more…

And NOBODY teaches us those skills in school! But the good news - it’s never too late to learn.

What I’ve discovered: With the right skills, knowledge and support, you can absolutely bring back closeness and happiness into your relationship. 

If you once loved your partner or you still do, there’s a roadmap to go from feeling hopeless, frustrated and disconnected to happy, hopeful and thriving in your marriage…..

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Introducing…Marriage Mastery

A 3-Month Transformational Coaching Experience for high achieving couples in midlife who want to Eliminate Painful Relationship Patterns and Restore RESPECT, LOVE & INTIMACY In Your Marriage.

The Marriage Mastery framework is a 4 pillar approach to a healthy, thriving relationship that combines personal empowerment, mindset, communication skills and commitment.

A framework that has helped hundreds of couples turn their marriage completely around even when they thought it wasn’t possible. 

Here’s how we do it:

  • Three months, 12 weekly sessions of support, accountability & skill building. Either in person or by video conference. 
  • Sessions with you as a couple as well as individual sessions (determined by your coach Denise Fitzpatrick).
  • Weekly perspective-shifting homework assignments that will help you connect with your partner and improve communication.
  • Email or Voxer access for added support and accountability, where you’ll receive a response from me within 24 hours, Monday to Friday.  Consider these your SOS calls. 

Together we’ll cover how to:

  • Change Problematic Patterns: You’ll know how to recognize, interrupt, and redirect the negative patterns in your relationship, you’ll move away from cycles of disconnection, creating a more consistent and satisfying connection with your spouse.
  • Shift into a Positive Mindset: I’ll guide you in reshaping your thoughts about your partner and your marriage, encouraging a positive & balanced outlook that can withstand the inevitable ups and downs of life. 
  • Communicate Effectively: You’ll learn to express yourself effectively so that you eliminate misunderstandings, can have productive and meaningful conversations about any issue and you both feel heard and understood.
  • Deal with Conflict Constructively: I’ll show you strategies for managing disagreements in ways that strengthen rather than weaken your bond. This includes staying calm, managing emotions, and truly listening to your partner’s perspective, even in moments of disagreement. As a result, conflicts become opportunities for growth rather than sources of distress.
  • Bring Connection back: I help you establish daily rituals of connection based on what works for your marriage, you’ll deepen your intimacy, trust, and support for each other. These rituals not only enhance your day-to-day relationship but also provide a strong foundation for navigating stressful times or conflicts more effectively.

The 4 Pillar Framework

Pillar ONE: Connection through Ownership & Identity

Empowering yourself is at the heart of improving your marriage. This pillar is about taking charge of what you can control, stepping away from the blame game, and focusing on actionable change.

Pillar TWO: Context – Prime Your Perspective

Traditional therapy often overlooks a critical step in relationship improvement: MINDSET. It’s easy to fall into a pattern of focusing on what’s wrong. Change that pattern, not through wishful thinking, but through a deliberate effort to appreciate your spouse’s positive qualities. 

Pillar THREE: Communication – Collaborative Communication

Effective communication is the backbone of a strong relationship. This pillar is dedicated to developing the skills and emotional resilience required for you and your partner to communicate more effectively.

Pillar FOUR: Commitment – Prioritize Partnership

True closeness, connection, and intimacy in your marriage stem from making your relationship a top priority. This pillar is about identifying and acting on the thoughts and behaviors that create a deeper connection between you and your spouse.

But don’t just take my word for it.  Hear what other people have said:

https://www.mymarriageworks.com/testimonials/

If you know this is what you need but you’re wondering?

FAQ section

So what does this look like?

MONTH ONE

We’ll kick off our work together with a 60- minute deep dive session. Then we’ll start to identify the patterns, behaviors, beliefs that are keeping you from having the marriage you truly want, so you can start making changes right away.

You’ll have 3 more weekly sessions in month one that focus on deeper awareness of your mindset. The thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself and your marriage that prevent you from seeing different possibilities for your future. You’ll work on identifying new thoughts & beliefs that support the relationship you desire.

MONTH TWO

You’ll work on identifying your triggers and managing your emotional reactions so you’ll be able to talk with your partner in a respectful, calm and loving manner. Specific attention is given to eliminating any of the “4 horsemen of the apocalypse”, behaviors that correspond with a high prediction of relationship failure. Defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling, contempt.

MONTH THREE

Focused work on changing the patterns and habits that aren’t working. Changing long standing habits in behavior and thinking takes time and consistent, intentional daily practice. With weekly sessions you have the accountability to help you stay on track and support to keep you focused and consistent.

Self evaluation is an important part of the process that happens throughout. Making change in your relationship will require you looking at your contribution to the way things are. 

It may be uncomfortable right now because you’ve been in the habit of blaming your partner. As you look more deeply at yourself and learn to identify your own thoughts and feelings, this will empower you to create exactly what you want. 

It will take consistent effort, motivation, openness and a willingness to try new things and see things differently.

Each month you’ll have 4x 60 minute weekly coaching sessions (12 total). All calls are done online over video call.  

Or If local to me, you have the option of meeting in person.

You’ll have unlimited email or messenger support between sessions (Mon-Fri). With this personalized approach you have me in your corner every step of the way to help you stay in an empowered place – and to get you back to an empowered place if you have a setback in 

It’s time for a change.

You’ve tried fixing things on your own, and it hasn’t worked. 

Waiting for problems to resolve over time hasn’t helped either. 

Even previous therapy sessions might have left you more frustrated, ending in arguments without progress.

Why do these approaches fail? Often, there’s no clear plan or focused goals. 

This is where I can help.

With my extensive background—a Master’s degree in counseling, 23 years as a licensed therapist, and over a decade specializing in couples & relationship counseling—combined with personal insights from my 24-year marriage, I understand what it takes to create a healthy, lasting partnership.

Imagine what’s possible:

  • Freedom to Express Yourself: Communicate your thoughts and desires without the fear of arguments.
  • Resolve Disagreements Constructively: Feel closer to your partner, navigating conflicts with respect and support.
  • Let Go of the Past: Move beyond old hurts, leaving no room for grudges.
  • Understand and Be Understood: Replace misunderstandings with appreciation and mutual respect.
  • Interest and Curiosity in Conversations: Listen to your partner without feeling defensive or responsible.
  • Joy in Your Marriage: Look forward to a future filled with happiness and shared dreams.

How is marriage mastery different?:

Most therapists lack a clear, actionable plan for couples. I offer a structured path forward, tailored to your unique relationship challenges. Whether you’ve lost touch with the love you once shared or are buried in unresolved issues, my approach is designed to reconnect and rejuvenate your relationship in three months or less—whether you work through this program alone or with your partner.

Ready to Transform Your Marriage?

Schedule a free call with me today. Let’s start a conversation about turning your marriage around. No more feeling unloved, unappreciated, or misunderstood. Rediscover the love that’s been overshadowed by years of resentment.

Together, we can make your marriage thrive again—even when it feels impossible.